i suck at blogging

and i blame instagram, facebook, and twitter. i blame all those apps on what has turned into quarterly blogging on this bloggity blog.

happy birthday to clayton! thank god he turned 32 today, because i turned 35 on the 14th and being 4 years apart in age for about a week makes me seem like quite a cougar. 3 years apart is completely respectable. which is good, since clayton is now dr. clayton faulkner. we head to florida in june so he can graduate with his doctorate in worship studies (and spend a week celebrating at disney world).

it finally happened this week. i was driving the boys to tball practice and they were watching despicable me (which is a movie i love) and deacon said, “when you’re adopted you have to go live somewhere else.” i said, “just like y’all used to live in ethiopia and now you live here.” and then he asked, “where is my real mom and dad?” ugh. daggers to my heart.

i will confess that we have not done such a bang up job of explaining the boys’ life stories to them as i wish we had. i had envisioned long, thoughtful talks about first families and special care givers and finding places ending with big family hugs around the fire (i guess i envision these talks on the one cold day in houston)… instead, it happened in the car, while i’m shoving down chicken nuggets and speeding to tball practice… i think i managed to say something like, “i’m your real mom, but your first mom and dad are in ethiopia and they loved you so much that they wanted you to have the best life and so they asked us to love you for them and….” by that part i was rambling and the boys were over the discussion and back to despicable me.

they haven’t asked again. i shared that story this morning at our new learning group at church called ‘family tree’. it’s a group that will look at adoption and orphans in the bible every week and then share our stories and struggles and successes in adoption. we had an amazing group today with so much awesome discussion. the verse was the moses story in exodus 1:15-2:10…we actually didn’t focus on moses as much as his mother (how would she feel putting him in the river, how did she feel when called back into moses’ life as his wet-nurse), the Pharaoh’s daughter (why go take a bath in a river that would have tons of dead babies floating in it, was she looking to rescue babies), and moses’ sister (how quick thinking and brave she must have been to talk to royalty and make a suggestion that would put moses’ mom back in his life)… i can’t wait to meet again next week!

we also shared about our desire to adopt again in the future. right now our agency, gladney, is not accepting ET applications due to the in-country slow downs. i hope that in about 18 months (when i think we will be ready to start again) they open back up. i’m envisioning sisters 0-5. i may or may not have already bought this doll which now lives in my closet. (by the way, dolls in general freak me out, but i love this one!)

ok, so i have to write deacon and masamo’s post placement reports now. masamo’s is late and deacon’s is due in may. i love writing these reports for no other reason than i pray so hard that their first families in ET get to read them.

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Kickin’ It for the Gant Girls

My sister, Monica, teaches PE in Galena Park. The other day she sent me an email. It was about a fundraiser she is organizing for some sweet girls.

So, I open the email and read about the girls…”Samantha, three years old, was recently diagnosed with Non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Olivia, 17 months old, was born with a main artery malformation that is affecting her brain causing seizures, known as Arteriovenous malformations (AVM’s). She also has an inoperable brain tumor that has affected her sight and her ability to communicate. Both girls are in and out of the medical center and receiving radiation twice each week.”

I thought, awwwww… poor babies! I started thinking about how I can help or what I could do. Then I scroll down and saw their picture. I know all kids are cute. These 2 girls are super cute. But what made me tear up was that I saw my kids in this picture. Not literally of course, but symbolically.

Here are mine tonight at gymnastics.

When I look at the Gant girls the first thing I want to do is cry. That is empathy, or feeling what their family must feel every day when their beloved daughters have serious medical issues. My tears won’t pay for medical treatments or hospital bills or life saving medicine. So my tears are short lived. Empathy that doesn’t move into action is worthless and trite.

So here is the action…

Kickin’ it for the Gant Girls
Benefit Kickball Tournament
Saturday, February 4, 2012
First game starts at 8:00am
Galena Park Middle School football field

$120 per 12 person team (cash, check, or credit)
Registration Deadline: January 25th 2012

Come have some family fun for a good cause!
Yummy Concessions will be sold!
T-Shirts will be available for$10
($5 for Kickball Team Members)

Entry fee
$2 adults
$1 students
For a Team registration form or to inquire about donations
Email forgantgirls@gmail.com or
Call/text Monica: 979-574-1461

 

Me and the boys will be there to help out! I don’t play sports so well, so maybe I’ll sell shirts :)

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day one

i only made one resolution this year. be in this year. i have a bad habit of continually planning for the future. great when you’re doing international adoptions and house hunting and financial planning, but horrible when you have 2 little kids that won’t be little forever. so my only resolution is to live it up this year with the family and friends and let the future worry about itself.

because let’s face it. these boys aren’t going to be so compliant with my picture taking request for much longer!!!

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Christmas Letter 2011

We hope you are entering the holiday season with pockets of peace and happiness. If not, we can relate. Having preschoolers and full time jobs is a challenge at times, but always worth the toil in the end. We have not been as consistent at updating the family blog for the same reasons. This little note is a peek into our lives as we come to the end of 2011:

Margo is the glue that holds our family together. She is in her fourth year as a 4th grade teacher at an elementary school in Katy. She is growing into her role as an educator and winning the respect of her colleagues and co-workers. This summer she was the lead trainer in instructing other educators how to use KISD’s outdoor learning center. Margo has also been experimenting in the kitchen this year. Thanks to Pinterest she has started trying out new recipes and making some really delicious food.

Clayton’s exciting year included accepting a new ministry position at Faith Lutheran Church in Bellaire, TX as the Director of Worship, Music, and Technology. He continues to amaze those around him by using his gifts to glorify God and be an innovative leader in our church. He also is wrapping up his Doctorate degree in Worship Studies. Clayton goes above and beyond every day as a husband and father from providing for our family to bath time and bedtime stories for the boys.

Deacon is getting taller every day. It is easy to see that he will be a talented athlete as he grows up. He has a pretty solid spiral for a five year old. He loves going to preschool where he has music, religion, computer, and Spanish classes. He is looking forward to starting kindergarten next year. One of the funniest things Deacon does is make up songs and dances. He loves to change into costumes and play memory games.

Masamo is doing extremely well since joining our family in March 2010. He immediately found his place as the little brother. He and Deacon play very well together and usually have a great time. Masamo is also in preschool and is kind of a ladies man. One of greatest blessings this year has been that the boys attend chapel at the preschool once a week where Clayton leads music and shares Bible stories. One of the funniest things Masamo does is talk non-stop (which stops being funny after a point). He loves to try new foods and loves to play with his big brother.

Happy holidays from The Faulkners – and a blessed 2012.

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happy birthday deacon

happy birthday deacon! deacon turns 5 today. we celebrated with a big party on sunday and those pics will follow later. to catch you up to speed, here are some birthday pasts.

Birthday #4 at the little gym. theme was batman.

Birthday #3 at home. theme was spiderman, but he wore a batman mask. go figure.

Birthday #2 at home. theme was basketball.

Birthday #1 at home. theme was curious george.

here is a seasonal deacon picture just for fun

and this one was taken on the way home from Ethiopia about 4 years ago. never were truer words written :)

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resurrection

as in, resurrection of this here blog. funny how i thought that i’d have time during the summer to blog and i didn’t. oh well. we are back in school and time is flying by. i am blogging on my new laptop (actually got it a month or so ago) from the end of masamo’s bed. judge if you want, but we still sit in the boys room until they fall asleep. bedtime goes faster this way and so we do it this way.

i felt convicted to blog because i was making calls for the gladney family association kick off dinner that is next saturday…hold on, i need to check on a baby sitter for that night…ok, i fbook messaged our babysitter to see if she is available. my sister is going to maroom 5 concert that night, so she isn’t free unless i get maroon 5 to change their concert venue to my living room :) anywho, gladney people that i called mentioned the old blog here and then i felt the need to post. so here we are.

right now we are planning deacon’s 5th birthday party. this statement makes me 85% happy (yay, growing up, maybe no more wall-eyed fits or insane obsession with his own rear end) and 15% sad (where did i put that little baby that used to sleep with his legs straight up in the air????). this year we are partying at a gymnastics place and our theme is firefighter. love this theme! the funniest part of the theme decision is how he really wanted a green lantern party for forever, but then when he decided on firefighter theme he let masamo have green lantern. poor little brother mossy. getting the cast off bday themes :)

deacon loves football. he is wearing a texans jersey that is 50 sizes too big for him to bed these days. masamo also loves most sports, but not too good with the catching so we decided he is an awesome punter…

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Deacon & Masamo @ the museum

20110828-085213.jpg The blog has been quiet lately, and I wanted to share a pic and say hello. I don’t post very often, as this had turned into “Margo’s world” but the original intent was for this to be a family style blog. I’m afraid that life is moving fast and these days of preschool life will be gone and forgotten. So the pic is a reminder and an update so you can see them in their element. This was taken outside the Houston museum of natural history not long ago, during one of our excursions. We are members there and enjoy the butterflies, dinosaurs, and hands on science experiments. Deacon usually tries to stop this globe from turning, but never does. (interesting metaphor about the time thing)

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Video from Trinity Cathedral in Addis Ababa

This is a video I recorded on March 4, 2010 while touring Trinity Cathedral in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. We were very fortunate to hear the cantor and chorus rehearsing the deggua or “church song” in the cathedral. The video also shows the beautiful stained glass windows and the tomb of Haile Selassie.

The sacred music of the Ethiopian Orthodox Church is very old. The hymnary is attributed to Saint Yared, a scholar who lived in Aksum in the 6th century. This is perhaps the most astonishing thing about our journey toward adoption because Deacon’s “finding place” was in front of Saint Yared Music School in Addis Ababa in 2006. I don’t think it was a coincidence that my profession/livelihood/calling happens to be church music and that is where Deacon was found! That news was an epiphany for me. Just as God had used music in my life to bring me into the faith and into a relationship with Him as an adopted son, God used a music school to make me a father and teach me about faith, love, and hope.

Learn more about Trinity Cathedral HERE. Learn more about Ethiopian Orthodox Liturgy HERE.

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User error

I was in the living room. The boys had been in the library (what we call the formal living room) for less than 5 minutes.

But it was quiet. Quietness worries me.

So I go in there. Both boys were behind the leather chair and I noticed they had the laptop. It looked like deacon was just going to type on it.

I grab it and talk about how they can’t play with it. I just happen to open it to see if they were typing and realize typing is the least of our problems.

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Yikes!!!!

So then I may have started talking very loudly and using my upset face. Needless to say, both boys were crying and just pointing at each other while I asked, “who did this?”

Realizations:

We need a new laptop.

We need to not leave breakable things out unsupervised.

We need a third kid to be the ultimate tie breaker tattletale!

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Sunscreen

How is it possible that yesterday at the beach my children got multiple coverings of sunscreen, and yet I got none?!?! Rocking a bright red burn today.

We had a blast at stewart beach in Galveston. For those out of state friends, Galveston water is kind of brown. Very brown. Tried to find a photo filter that would turn the water blue, but no such filter exists.

I also feel like a liar when the kids yell, “ocean”, because it’s not the ocean. So then I’m trying to explain what a gulf is. Oh, to live in a coast with actual ocean water!!!

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What body of water do you and yours visit??? Is it blue???

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